How to get Kids to Eat Vegetables

How To Get Kids to Eat Vegetables

How to get Kids to Eat Vegetables!

Parents, we have all been there. We have lovingly prepared a delicious meal only to have our children turn away in disgust. Your kids are picky eaters and you feel powerless to get them to eat healthy foods. Meal times have turned into your most dreaded time of the day. You feel guilty that you haven’t instilled in your child a taste for more healthy foods. Well, maybe it is time to take another look at our approach to feeding our children.

Stop The Madness, Stop the War Over Food

We are not bad parents, and yet we find ourselves fighting with our kids about food every day. We try in vain to encourage them to eat. We get angry, make demands and prescribe punishments. “No dessert for you later if you don’t eat your vegetables.” Or we will say, “you can’t leave the table until you clean your plate.” You might try a rewards like, “If you eat your carrots, then you will get dessert.” Then the problem is bargaining with them about the amount of food they have to eat to get dessert. All of this drives a wedge between the child and the parents. Finally, at dessert time, you may cave in and give your child dessert anyway, so you can have a moments peace.

If this sounds familiar, read these 10 tips on how to get kids to eat vegetables without fighting at every meal. Do it for your sanity, and do it for your kids. Set them up for a lifetime of healthy eating habits, without having to yell, guilt, spank, force feed, bribe or punish them. Instead, these 10 tips you will learn how to get children eating vegetables naturally. There is no strong-arming required. You can get your kids ask for healthy foods by themselves.

Kids Are Picky Eaters

After about age 2, it is normal for a child to be picky. (1) They have new palates and everything tastes foreign to them. They are instinctively scared or suspicious of new foods. In nature it is better to beware of things that are unfamiliar and potentially harmful. It is also natural to like “rich” salty, sweet, or fatty foods and dislike bitter foods. Also, children do not have the same time perspective about delaying gratification. They can’t think about eating healthy now to avoid osteoporosis when they are a million years old.

As Parents We Are Our Own Worst Enemy

If there is one takeaway from my research, it is that fighting over food causes problems. Fighting creates a wedge between you and your children and makes kids dislike food. It’s true, studies show tough tactics cause kids to eat less fruits and vegetables. (2,3) How many of us remember a terrible food struggle with our parents? One time my dad forced me to eat a big plate of slimy spinach, and I gagged uncontrollably. It took me 25 years to eat cooked spinach again. Also, the “clean your plate” rule may be why I am a human garbage disposal today. Please share your own terrible food story below in the comments, I know you have one.

It is our love for our children that causes us to fight battles of wills at the diner table. Sometimes it feels like the kids are holding all the cards in this game of Eat Your Vegetables. We find ourselves feeding our child a more and more narrow range of foods they’ll eat. We have ridiculous fights at the margins. “You will eat these chocolate chip pancakes but not doughnuts for breakfast sweetie.” But how can you argue with someone’s preferences? Like and dislikes are part of what makes them an individual. Yet unless we nudge them in the right direction, they would eat ice cream and cookies all day. Also, as parents we are under pressure. Studies show that our eating habits at age 5, predict much of how we eat as adult. (4)

Set The Stage

The problem of how to get kids to eat vegetables, is similar, I think, to getting yourself to fall asleep. You may find that even if you want to sleep that you lay there with your mind racing. Since there is no “on/off” switch for your brain, you need to prepare for sleep. You set the stage by making the room dark and comfortable, silencing your phone, and relaxing. By setting these conditions you give yourself the best chance of falling asleep. Learning how to get kids to eat vegetables is all about the setting the right eating environment. Follow these proven tips to set the stage for your kids to eat veggies.

Here is How To Get Kids To Eat Vegetables!

1. Remove Nearby Junk Food
2. Make Sure They are Hungry (And Not Full of Junk)
3. Eat Like the French, Eat In Courses, Serve Small Portions
4. Don’t Pressure Your Child To Eat Vegetables: You Provide, Child Decides
5. Let Them Eat As Much Or As Little As They Want
6. Be a Role Model for Eating Vegetables
7. Foster Familiarity With Taste Testing
8. Eat Vegetables with Dips and Sauces
9. Make the Veggies Easy and Fun To Eat (Snack Hacks)
10. Get Kids Involved With Cooking Vegetables

1. Remove Nearby Junk Food

Today there is so much junk food around that natural foods can’t compete. Tip-number-1-no-nearby-junk-foodJunk foods are addictive drug-like foods that make it so “you can’t just have one.” Food companies design them to be appealing with bright packaging and fun shapes. They call to our kids, “eat me, eat me!” So try your best to eat at home as much as possible and limit junk in your house. Normal food will seem gross when kids compare them to junk food. Indeed, out of sight out of mind is by far the best recommendation at that is why it is first on the list. So avoid fights about food by making rich foods scarce and healthy foods abundant.

2. Make Sure They Hungry, And Not Full Of Junk

There is the old russian proverb “hunger makes a great sauce.” Let the kids skip eating Tip-Number-2-not-full-of-junkif they are don’t want the food that you offer. Don’t starve them. In fact, offer healthy snacks between meals. Because kids’ stomachs are small, it is more natural for a child to eat frequent small meals. Between meals avoid junk-food bribes or emotional band aids. Remember that the most valuable thing we can give our children is time and positive attention. When using food for its mood elevating properties we are using it like a drug. The behavior that we model is that drugs help us feel better and you know the slogan, use “hugs, not drugs.”

3. Eat Like the French, Eat In Courses, Serve Small Portions

Eat like the French. Start with the veggiesTip-Number-3-eat-like-the-french or salad first. Next include stand alone starchy veggies like potatoes, corn or squash. Serve dishes with flavorful sauces last (such as pastas with marinara). Eat fruit for dessert. Although fruit is healthy, its taste is so sweet and pleasurable save it for last.

Treat your meal like a wine tasting. During wine tasting, you sip in sequence. Wine tasters serve strong and overpowering wines last. They don’t want to ruin the flavor of the subtle wines. So put weak flavors in a meal first. Cleanse your kids palate by having them sip a little water before a meal.

Use a courses concept. This way, as kids wait at the table the food gets better and better. Don’t worry if one child hasn’t finished their course. If they are stalling, have them take a tiny taste and then clear their uneaten food for the next course. Limit waste with small portions. Sane portion sizes leave us wanting more and aren’t overwhelming to kids.

4. Don’t Pressure Your Child To Eat Vegetables: You Provide, Child Decides

Studies show bribery, praise and use of rewards do not increase food intake inTip-number-4-dont-pressure-your-child the long run. (4) Negative coercion including disapproval, assault, threats, or punishments won’t make a child hungrier. These methods make the food taste worse by setting up negative associations. (3) Think about foods your parents forced you to eat and how long it took you to recover. Let it go folks. These fights wound relationships and create lifelong food aversions. Instead, give them “choice-freedom.” Allow your kids to choose between the healthy foods you offer at mealtime. Try to to explain why a food is good for them (reasoning). These methods increase food preference and avoid negative food associations. (3)

5. Let Them Eat As Much Or As Little As They Want

Making kids overeat will override their own normal hungerTip-Number-5-let-them-eat-as-much-as-they-want cues. (2) Just because your parents trained you to “eat your plate clean” does not make it a rite of passage. Put yourself in your kids tiny shoes. How would you feel if you had your food choices totally controlled by another person? How fair is it to limit or control what your child eats, yet, you have no limits on your intake? The “clean your plate” dictum hails from the Great Depression era. Back then, people saw obese children as healthy. Now we must base the way we eat on the idea of abundance instead of scarcity. We must allow our children to practice self-regulation of their own food intake. (2)

6. Be a Role Model for Eating Vegetables

Studies show that parents who eat veggies have children who eat veggies. Tip-Number-6-role-model-for-foodParents who eat more junk food have children that do the same. (5) Role modeling has much stronger effect than trying to reason with your young child. Seeing other people eat a particular food helps the child feel that the food is safe. Why would they trust any food that you do not relish or seldom eat? So be sure older family members eat veggies often and show the younger ones that you like it. (1) To ensure this works you must serve everyone the same food choices and avoid serving your first born child a “special meal.” (1) If you often model how much you enjoy dessert and other addictive foods, it will influence your kids to prefer these same foods. In this way, you can let your child’s intake be your nutritional mirror.

When I asked on social media how to get her kids to eat veggies, one mother said. “The sure, foolproof way to get your kids to eat veggies is that YOU eat them. All the time. YOU like them. YOU feature them. Children watch what you do and it impacts them FAR more than what you say.”

Another mother said, “I use reverse psychology. I say that tonight mommy is making some food “just” for me. Then I “ooh and ahh” over the food. The kids will inevitably try the food to see what they are missing.”

7. Foster Familiarity With Taste Testing

Think about trying new food like being afraid of the Tip-NUmber-7-taste-testingdark. Trying a new food is all about a concept called “learned safety.” It takes about 15 positive experiences for a child to like a new food. (1,6) The key word is “positive” and force-feeding sessions do not apply. In a similar way, liking a new food, is like learning a new song. It takes about 10-15 times to know the song by heart.

So do not expect to introduce a new food and have your child learn to love it all in one sitting. Tasting (small bits/fearful) is different than eating (large portions/relaxed). Wait to increase the portion size of a food until your child learns to like it and ask for it. If you can learn to crave bitter coffee and beer then there is hope for your child to learn to like vegetables.

I recommend tasting sessions separate from meals and call it “taste-bud school.” Use tasting games to expand your child’s palate starting about at age 3-4. See which child is brave enough to try a new food. Add food chasers if needed. Chase new foods with a familiar food to limit the disgust factor and reduce aftertaste.

8. Eat Vegetables with Dips and Sauces

As you know there are few if any plain vegetables ever served at restaurants. They are “doctored-up,” Tip-number-8-use-dipsor “scattered, smothered and covered” until their taste is almost unrecognizable. We do it for our dogs and cats by adding canned dog food to the kibble. So include a flavorful condiment, dip or sauce with any bitter food you serve your kids. Dip veggie sticks or pita in hummus, celery into peanut butter, and fruit into non-dairy yogurt. Make a fruit topping by blending up berries. Slowly your kids will tolerate more and more vegetables. Consider how your coffee habit started. I’m sure you added sickening amounts of cream and sugar before you ever drank it black.

By the way, avoid sneaking vegetables by pureeing the food and mixing it into well liked foods. It is counterproductive. Kids are smart. Once they smell a rat, they will lose trust in you and imagine you secretly poison their meals. Sometimes conspiracies are true. Besides, you want your child to learn to like the appearance of food so that they will actually learn to eat it.

9a. Make Fruits and Veggies Easy

We know that the convenience of fast food encourages eating and is making us all “supersized.” But this concept works for healthy foods too. Make healthy foods easy to reach and always available. Keep easy to eat fruit out on the counter and prepared “ready to eat” foods at your kids eye-level in the fridge. Use a low kitchen cabinet or drawer as the place for kids cups, kid-sized plates, bowls, utensils, napkins and straws. Also, use the power of mindless eating by with natural food platters set close to the kids during TV or play. Let them take what they want. They will surprise you. When you come back the platter will be empty.

9b. Make Fruits and Veggies Fun

To make food fun, start thinking and acting like a kid.Tip-number-9-make-veggies-easy-and-fun If your “inner child” is in a coma, then steal some fun-food ideas from Pinterest. Have you heard about teddy bear toast, frozen banana penguins, lightsaber veggie sticks, the tacosaurus, rainbow fruit skewers or magic wands. Ask yourself,…“Self, can this food look like an animal or my child’s favorite superhero?” Get creative. Can you freeze it it, make it into finger food, or float it in Jello? Can you put it on a stick or wrapped it in a burrito? Can you color it with food dye, or dust it with sprinkles, cocoa or powdered sugar? Can you serve the food in a toy dump truck or in a play tea set? (7) These great snack hacks are fun ways to familiarize your kids to a variety of fruits and veggies.

When I asked other parents what they did to make food fun one mother said, “my son loves to rhyme, so when we serve food we tell him “it’s delicious AND nutritious!” So now he says that too. And we all say, “It’s yum yum yummy in my tum tum tummy!”

For more fun-food ideas, check out my pinterest board:

10. Get Kids Involved With Cooking Vegetables

Your dad taught you that you wouldn’t appreciate Tip-Number-10-get-kids-involvedsomething unless you worked for it. This is also true about kids and the food they eat. Get kids involved with food planning, buying, cooking and cleaning process.

Have your child help with a shopping list and choose vegetables that they like or are willing to try. At the store, have them “treasure hunt” for the food. Try having them “find the 1-3 veggies that they want to try this week.” It is fun, especially, if they pick out a new vegetable that you haven’t tried before. At home, have them wash, peel or cut the produce. Kids love stirring, turning and watching the food while it cooks. It also lets them see what is in food mixtures so they feel less scared. Make them the official taste tester and ask if it needs something else.

If your child learns to make a dish, then the dish becomes “theirs.” You can say things like “Johnny do you want to make grandpa YOUR famous baked apples?”

To “kick it up a notch” have your child help grow food from seeds or seedlings in a small garden or a few pots on your porch. Planting seeds and nurturing a garden provides a deep understanding and appreciation for food.

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